Have you ever met someone who just hated life?
I have come across so many people during my travels who have been so rude to me, treated me like dirt, and just down right disrespected me! Like, what`did I do to make you so angry?
It took me awhile to realize why so many people unfortunately treat people like the bottom of the barrel. Here's the thing, I understand that people have so many things that`may be going on in their lives, and they take it out on other people. I used to take it so personal, and it turned me into a very ugly person. It wasn't until I trained myself to understand people more, and why people do the things that `they do. It really is all about keeping an open mind, and not only that, but keeping yourself busy with your own amazing life. I've learned that`if you focus on your own life, the good things, it will be more difficult to worry about what is going on with the negative around you. Now I'm not going to say that `it's an easy thing to do to not pay attention to the negative, what I'm saying is to just make an effort to try to focus on the good things, and eventually the toxic things that`are happening around you will not phase you.
I'M NO EXPERT
But what`has helped me understand why people get into a toxic time in their life is because they are just burned out! Maybe they've been working a job that they've been hating for so many years! Maybe they are in a toxic relationship? Maybe they are not being treated fairly at work. And of course the BIG ONE, maybe they are going through financial struggles or dealing with family matters. There are so many factors to look into why and how people get burned out.
MY TWO CENTS
Just to let you know, I can only speak for myself and some of my friends who have shared with me what has helped them prevent burn out and live a more happy and fulfilling life. Here are 5 ways that` have helped me prevent burn out, and become more open minded about life and the people around me.
1. Do What`You Love - Easier said than done right, that's because it is. But I have found that`it is much more worth it to sacrifice a few years of your life to turn your passion into a business, versus spending your whole existence doing something that you hate. Also, maybe spending more time with family, volunteering or finding a hobby can help bring yourself back to reality.
2. Keep Things Simple, and Take Breaks - Some things are just way beyond our control, so why try to be controlling. To understand that`life won't always work in your favor will help you live more stress-FREE. Things happen for a reason, take it, learn from it and move on! And when life gets hectic (and it will a lot), take a break! I find that taking breaks helps clear my mind, and prevents me from making bad and irresponsible decisions, although sometimes we just can't help it, we're human! It's all about pacing yourself, people who live in the fast lane don't last long, they either lose control or like what this post is about, they simply just get burnt out!
3. Eat Healthier - Oh yeah I know how tough this one is lol, but I find that when I do eat healthier, I am happier and don't feel as irritated when people annoy me, yes I said it, but it's true. There's something about fueling your body with the good stuff that turns you into a super nice human being.
4. Be More Active - Life, work, business, relationships, and even family can be burn you out. One of the best ways to release the negative toxins and bad thoughts is to yes...... workout. What they say is so true, you will never regret a workout, this has been proven with me through the years, all I have to do is find the right people to keep me accountable to stick with my goals when life gets tough, and thank goodness I have that =)
5. Travel - Sometimes we just need to get away from our every day life. No, you don't have to leave the country or anything like that, but I do highly encourage it =). Just try going to a place you've never been in your hometown! For me, traveling has been one of my biggest therapies. Humans were meant to explore, so go out and explore, you might not come back =) You might even find out what`you should've been doing all along =).
So that's about it. I believe that`if people can just start with these 5 things, it will help prevent burn out and maybe even prevent themselves from being MEAN to other people =) Let's face it, we all want to be happy and live better, so why not start today?
I do want to say that`if you come across someone who seems to just be hating life, I encourage you to just listen to them, smile and compliment, those three things always works wonders! We seriously just don't have enough people doing it.
Again, I'm no expert, but this is what` has helped me in my journey to living a happier, stress-free life. It's an ongoing battle, but little things like this has helped me, let me know how it works for you!
Arnel is a donation-based filmmaker, digital nomad, sponsored adventure traveler, and online Beachbody Coach. Feel free to connect with me or ask me anything!
